"Any woman who chooses to behave like a full human being should be warned that the armies of the status quo will treat her as something of a dirty joke. That's their natural and first weapon." ~ Gloria Steinem

Thursday, December 8, 2011

On Hypocrisy


There’s a video going the rounds on Facebook. Perhaps you’ve seen it. I hear it involves chickens being ground up alive. People are understandably upset about this practice.

I’m not saying it’s ok. Nobody’s saying it’s ok. Nobody will tell you that it’s the height of moral sophistication to toss a live chicken in a grinder simply so you don’t have to pay someone to kill and/or debone it.

But that is precisely the point. It takes zero moral fortitude to condemn this practice—and yet, the Vegan Army roundly congratulate each other on the strength of their collective character; each member goes to sleep each night after patting hirself on the back for helping stamp out animal cruelty. The only people who will defend this practice are the people making/saving money from it, and even they will not claim that it’s an awesome thing to do, no, it’s just business. The economy, you know. You have to do what you can to make a profit; it’s regrettable, but necessary. When pretty much everyone agrees with you, how much has your character strengthened here, exactly?

[Now, I’m not claiming that the only causes worth fighting for are the difficult ones. It shouldn’t need to be said, but I’m a woman, and have become accustomed to explaining myself in excruciating detail—not that it avoids “misunderstandings”, but there it is. I overexplain. I’m not saying that your cause is not worthwhile unless it costs you scads of energy, inner peace, and simple joy. I’m not saying this. Just to be clear.]

Animal cruelty is the social activist placebo—much like recycling is the environmentalist placebo. People who recycle get to think well of their actions; they recycle a beer can and shame other people into recycling beer cans, then hop in their gas-guzzling SUV and drive to a ski resort where they will ride a high-energy chair lift to the top of a mountain that was once home to lynx but is now clogged with skiers, some of which spent $100 to be there—just for one day.

People who condemn obvious instances of animal cruelty get to think well of their actions; they post a video depicting live chickens being ground up in a factory and shame other people into posting the same video, then go to work and crack a rape “joke” in front of a rape survivor who will not say anything because zie remembers the “joke” that was told last week about sexual harassment, and strongly suspects no good and much bad will come of speaking up.

I am tired of people who pretend they are better people than everyone else because they eat vegan for the good of the planet and/or animals—forgetting, conveniently, that the mass production of the palm oil found in the vast majority of their dairy substitute products is directly and rapidly contributing to the extinction of orangutans. I am tired of people who choose an easy moral choice and promptly excuse themselves of all other responsibility for making the world a better place.

I understand that there’s a lot of shit in the world, and each person has only so much energy and must therefore prioritize, but would it kill you stop fucking contributing to the other shit? It’s not that fucking hard.

I choose to devote my energy to problems between and among human persons. However, while devoting that energy, I also devote precisely zero energy to kicking dogs. Would it fucking kill you to cease devoting energy to kicking rape survivors (for example)? It is morally reprehensible to continue this conflicting behavior, and also hypocritical, and yet, it’s everywhere, and you do it with a straight fucking face and I don't understand.

When I bring this up in conversation, I am accused of being unfeeling. I am accused of not giving a shit about animals.

And yet, I am not allowed to accuse you of not giving a shit about disenfranchised persons, even in situations where you clearly do not give even one-half of one shit.

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

The NBA and the Billion-Dollar Mistake

So, the NBA season is in jeopardy, blah blah blah, money money money, etc. I don't much care about the NBA, but I DO very much care about the WNBA.


The NBA has basically been subsidizing the WNBA for the last decade or so. I fear that if the NBA loses enough money over this, they'll look to the laydeez to save them money, putting the whole league and every player in it in jeopardy. Of course, an alternative is that the 2011-2012 NBA season is not played, people want to watch basketball, and end up supporting the WNBA, making it unwise for the NBA to do anything rash.

I don't hold out much hope for the latter, though.

Monday, November 14, 2011

Oh hai.

I've been trying out tumblr lately, but I'm thinking about coming back here. Tumblr has a lot of interesting features, but I think I'm getting tired of reblog chains full of flashing .gifs. Also, endless one-on-one argument reblog chains, endless reblog chains wherein one person says something idiotic and the whole feminist tumblr community feels called to explain exactly why they suck...maybe reblog chains in general.

I do very much like that I'm reading a wider variety of thoughts on things I really know nothing about, i.e. racism, immigration, Islam, trans* issues, etc.

But.

It's a microblogging service, for Christ's sake. My dashboard is weary of trying to contain posts that could fill the front page of a newspaper. And I think I will write here, and microblog there. I'm writing less since I got on tumblr, probably because the general attitude is not one of focused writing, but more along the lines of reactions and thoughts.

I have no readers either here or there, so it probably won't even matter either way :D

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

NO.

We can say no. When someone instructs us to lose weight, to shave, to straighten our hair, to get “in shape”, to wear makeup, to wear less makeup, to dress appropriately, to dress more stylishly, no not that stylishly, to stop standing out, to stop making noise, to stop being so damn large, to stop making excuses, to stop fighting, to just get along, to just do what we tell you, to just buy into this commercial weight-loss plan, to just take these pills, to just have this cosmetic surgery, to just follow instructions, to just know that we’re doing this for your own good, to never walk alone, to never walk alone in that outfit, to never draw attention, because no one wants to see that, because no one wants to see your body, because no one wants to see you.
You can tell them no, and refuse to say more on the subject. No is always an option. It’s a small word, a difficult word, a word that speaks volumes in a single syllable, and one that gets easier to say the more you do it. It’s part of your arsenal, whether you realize it or not, and it’s a powerful weapon.
You can say no.
You don’t have to explain it.
You don’t have to apologize for it.
You can just
say
no.
 ~ Lesley Kinzel, The Awesome Power of No

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

It doesn't get much better than this

So, so you think you can tell Heaven from Hell--blue skies from pain
Can you tell a green field from a cold steel rail?
A smile from a veil?
Do you think you can tell?
And did they get you to trade your heroes for ghosts?
Hot ashes for trees?
Hot air for a cool breeze?
Cold comfort for change?
And did you exchange a walk on part in the war for a lead role in a cage?
 

How I wish, how I wish you were here.
We're just two lost souls swimming in a fish bowl, year after year

Running over the same old ground
What have you found? The same old fears.
Wish you were here

Saturday, April 2, 2011

I Trust Women

I believe in a culture that supports the autonomy of women; specifically, I am now speaking of reproductive autonomy. This means giving women the ability to make their own choices in this area.

This means women should have access to affordable
  • birth control
  • reproductive healthcare
  • abortion
but also
  • prenatal care
  • breastfeeding support
  • infant formula
  • vaginal birth support
  • cesareans
  • hospital deliveries
  • birthing center deliveries
  • home deliveries
  • OB/GYNs
  • midwives
  • doulas
This list is by no means exhaustive; I just rattled off some things I've been thinking about recently.

The point is, my sister is a little uncomfortable, I think, with the fact that I support Planned Parenthood and access to abortion. She is not at all uncomfortable with the fact that I support her decision to carry her current pregnancy to term under the care of a midwife, and that I am appalled by how much difficulty she's having in getting her health insurance to cover everything--despite the fact that her birthing center is in her network and there shouldn't be any problems.

What she doesn't get is that those two situations are inextricably linked, and you can't support one without supporting the other. Take a look at this for a shining illustration of how women are treated in a culture that supposedly loves and supports childbirth and childrearing.

It's what happens in an anti-choice culture. As long as women are considered to be heinous, selfish, ignorant fools who don't know the first thing about their own bodies and the needs of their children, as long as women are considered incapable by society of making choices for their own welfare and for the welfare of their children, as long as women are inherently mistrusted, we will continue to deny them the means to live healthfully and happily in the context of their own family--whatever form that family may take, whatever avenue of birth that may mean, whatever infant feeding strategy that may take.

As long as we fail to trust women, we will continue to frighten and shame them into certain medical procedures, under the guise of doing what's best for their baby, and frighten and shame them out of other medical procedures, under the guise of righteous indignation. No woman should have to start, continue, or end a family based on anything resembling fear or shame. And if you disagree with me on that one, shame on you.